Relationship - Ms. Tiedemann, how do you stay close despite stress?
Ms. Tiedemann, why are partners not necessarily drawn into each other's arms when they are under a lot of stress?That's why withdrawal is the obvious thing to do at first. But if the emotional bond is broken or doesn't hold up in difficult times, it becomes clear whether the couple's islands have been well looked after beforehand.
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How does it work? It's about a culture of questioning and feeling: What do you sense, what do you feel? What do you need emotionally? Ideally, couples should establish a regular time-out for two once a week right from the start. Go out together, devote time to each other. With one focus: How do I feel? How do I feel with you?
Sometimes it makes sense to retreat when you're under stress,for example when one of you has come home from work and the other has spent a full day with children and is no longer receptive. I like to recommend a stress barometer. You can make one yourself and hang it up in the entrance area. There is a scale and a slider. Children can also use it when they come home from school. If the slider is in the red zone, the others know and I know myself: Now it's time to slow down. In this area, you quickly lose it and are unable to be open and empathetic.
How do you stay close when there are serious challenges?Relationships are about the common third. This gives a relationship depth and meaning. It can be good things, children, tasks. It can also be a burden. An illness. The crises, the canceled vacation, the canceled construction site.
What does the common third party have to do with our sexuality?When we master tasks together, experience difficult things together and support each other in the process, this creates trust and closeness. This is the basis for fulfilling sexuality, even in times of crisis. The third can also be sexuality: You can resolve to do it well together.
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Given the stresses that can strain a relationship, how can psychology help partners maintain emotional closeness? Under such circumstances, it's essential to engage in open communication, understanding each other's needs and feelings, and taking breaks when necessary to avoid exacerbating stress.
In what ways can stress affect a relationship's psychological aspects, and how can this be managed effectively? Prolonged stress can erode the emotional bond between partners, leading to withdrawal or increased tension. To counteract this, couples can lean on shared interests, engage in regular time-outs, and use stress management tools such as a shared stress barometer to promote mutual understanding and support.
Source: www.stern.de
