Coping with Mental Illness in Families

Dealing with mental illness is something that many families must confront.

Living with mental disorders within a family can be challenging. It could be attributed to shared genetic predispositions or simply a coincidence. Helping your family members live well together starts with accepting the situation. Creating a daily routine that caters to everyone's needs follows as the next crucial step. Two professionals offer tips for managing daily life.

"When parents have mental health issues, their children are more likely to develop similar conditions," notes Eva Möhler, Head of the Child Psychiatry, Psychosomatics, and Psychotherapy Clinic at Saarland University Hospital. Genetic factors and stress in the household could contribute to this outcome. For instance, a child may develop an anxiety issue if they are constantly preoccupied with a depressed parent, explains Möhler.

Acquiring ample professional support for all members is imperative. Apart from medical assistance, parents can also act as catalysts for their children's well-being. Although it is crucial for mentally ill parents to be around their family, only during better phases. "They can empower everyone by being present when feeling better," adds Möhler.

"Mental health conditions are not a weakness; they're like any other medical condition," clarifies Heike Petereit-Zipfel of the Federal Association of Relatives of Mentally Ill Individuals. Individuals should not feel ashamed to seek help. Early intervention increases the chances of successful treatment and support for relatives.

Understanding the specific illnesses and coping mechanisms would aid the entire family. It's important to:

Acceptance of situation

First, understanding and accepting the situation is crucial. A mental illness should not create feelings of shame or embarrassment. Instead, treat it as any other medical condition. Petereit-Zipfel often observes that individuals feel stigmatized by their illnesses. When this happens, encouraging relatives to learn more about the mental health disorders could help knock down misconceptions. Knowing more about the illnesses helps them appreciate the challenges faced by their family members.

Parents as role models

Mentally ill parents can still be great parents. They should prioritize their health and manage their symptoms. "Depression is not a severe illness, and proper treatment can make parents as competent as others, including managing ADHD-related challenges," affirms Möhler. These parents remain role models for their children; their actions influence their children's behavior. Since "mentally ill parents snapping frequently can lead to children adopting this behavior, it's better if they show how to cope with their conditions," emphasizes Möhler. Petereit-Zipfel advises, "Say to your children, 'I'm extra tense right now; I'm going to take a short walk, and then we'll talk about it.' "

Reducing the burden on children

Children often blame themselves for their parents' mental health issues. They may feel they're responsible for their condition. "It's essential to tell them it's not their fault," says Möhler. Removing this unconscious pressure allows children to focus on their own growth and keep the focus on their development. Support programs exist for children of mentally ill parents that could reduce the likelihood of these conditions manifesting.

Cultivating open communication

Rather than suppressing emotions or overpowering feelings, promoting open and honest communication within the family is vital. Each family member should be given opportunities to express their worries, needs, and feelings. "Putting illness-related behaviors at the forefront does not help," suggests Möhler. Instead, empathize and understand the person and their unique set of challenges, not the label or diagnosis. Petereit-Zipfel recommends regularly checking in with those affected, celebrating minor improvements, and talking more about their symptoms than their illnesses.

Overall, maintaining the structure of everyday life is essential to sustain order within a family with multiple mental health conditions. Individual needs, when met, contribute to a happier and healthier living environment for all.

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"Having a routine brings stability," shares Eva Möhler. It's crucial for everyone, especially parents, to maintain a structured daily schedule. This encompasses ensuring children attend school, engage in their beloved hobbies, and interact with friends. Even for those with mental illnesses, this same structure should be aimed for, if possible.

Moreover, consider organizing activities that promote positive mental health. Möhler emphasizes the importance of teaching children, "It's okay to have fun, even when your dad isn't able to due to his illness."

Finding Balance

It's natural for healthy individuals to feel burdened when dealing with those who are ill, notes Petereit-Zipfel. However, it's equally essential for them to indulge in activities they love and reap feel-good vibes. Examples include physical activities, watching movies, meeting friends, or joining support groups. Striking a balance prevents one from deteriorating mentally and physically.

Meanwhile, the mentally ill can benefit from observing their loved ones' pursuit of hobbies and interests. This recognition can offer relief, knowing their family's lives extend beyond them.